If the mother and baby are physically fine, the birth is deemed a success. Never mind the mother who feels violated, disrespected, unheard, scared and powerless as she attempts to safely bring her baby into the world. The professionals aren't concerned with those aspects of her experience, so who is she to expect anything more than a healthy baby at the end of what has become a harrowing ordeal? She has learnt that her needs are selfish wants, and that she is merely a faulty vessel from which her baby is to be forcefully extracted.Read More
So I want to hear from you, now, how you plan, with your team, to help me give birth to my baby, and not just perform another surgery.
Tell me how you are going to do that.Read More
One day humanity will look back on this era of medicalised childbirth and its inherent violence towards women, and wonder how we ever allowed it to happen, how we ever tolerated such violations to occur. Let that day be sooner rather than later. Let us never hear our birthing daughters utter the words, “I wasn’t allowed to…”Read More
How well are women set up to make positive birth choices for themselves? How well respected are women's birth choices? How compassionate, kind and respectful are the care providers who support birthing women? Are women made aware of their rights and responsibilities, and those of their care providers, prior to labour? Because overwhelmingly, for the majority of women who share their traumatic birth stories with me, it is the disempowerment they experienced through disrespectful, negligent, coercive, or just plain insensitive care, that ultimately results in a traumatic birth experience. It isn’t about how or where they end up giving birth so much as it is about the lack of compassion, respect and support they encounter in that process.Read More