That was undoubtedly a healing birth experience for my mum, but it had other far reaching impacts too. The story of my birth, at least in part, inspired me to become a midwife. And later, when I was to became a mother myself, Mum's story, alongside my own midwifery knowledge, guided me to know what it was that I needed to achieve the gentle, undisturbed birth that I desired... I knew my options, I found the support of midwives who spoke the same birth language as me, and I surrounded myself with people who I knew would respect my choices and offer me nothing but the utmost in kindness and compassion.Read More
If the mother and baby are physically fine, the birth is deemed a success. Never mind the mother who feels violated, disrespected, unheard, scared and powerless as she attempts to safely bring her baby into the world. The professionals aren't concerned with those aspects of her experience, so who is she to expect anything more than a healthy baby at the end of what has become a harrowing ordeal? She has learnt that her needs are selfish wants, and that she is merely a faulty vessel from which her baby is to be forcefully extracted.Read More
So I want to hear from you, now, how you plan, with your team, to help me give birth to my baby, and not just perform another surgery.
Tell me how you are going to do that.Read More
One day humanity will look back on this era of medicalised childbirth and its inherent violence towards women, and wonder how we ever allowed it to happen, how we ever tolerated such violations to occur. Let that day be sooner rather than later. Let us never hear our birthing daughters utter the words, “I wasn’t allowed to…”Read More